The Adoptees Association offers peer support meetings, counselling and advocacy services, guest speakers, panels, and whatever other resources the community wants or needs. Our goal is to have a permanent resource centre including a lending library. If you are an adopted person you are welcome to share your thoughts and ideas and take advantage of the resources we offer.
We have a facebook group called Adoptees Association and we hold a discussion/support meeting on the third Wednesday of the month in Vancouver. This month’s Adoptees Association meeting will be held at 7pm on Wednesday April 21st at the Rhizome Cafe, 317 East Broadway (at Main). This is our regular meeting time and place but please check our website www.adoptionreunion.ca or www.adopteesassociation.ca or the ‘adoptees association’ facebook page for the current month’s meeting details in case of any changes. Look forward to seeing you there. .
October 23rd, 2009 in
Adoption |
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I was pleasantly surprised to find that the pilot episode of Find My Family was nowhere near as sensationalized and shallow as I had expected it might be. I cringed at the thought of how a life-changing and emotionally charged experience like an adoption reunion could be mishandled by a reality TV. production. I thought they did well to have hosts who were adopted people, and who had experienced a reunion themselves. They came across as sensitive and genuine. The participants in this episode seemed to be emotionally mature individuals who openly expressed their fears and hopes, demonstrating their awareness of the complex issues intrinsic to reunion. The participants were respectful of one another and of the larger family circle. The big tear jerker for me was the letter that the birthfather wrote and read aloud to his relinquished daughter. Why can’t there be more birthfathers like that?!!!! I look forward to seeing the next episode, where the adoptive family and the birth family meet. It can’t all be smooth sailing, can it?
We’ll have to wait to find out… And of course it makes me wonder if subsequent shows will have pre-screened participants so that only the most ideal scenarios unfold?
My only criticism: lose the cheesy running across the field into one another’s arms under the “family” tree. Isn’t there enough drama already.
By Catherine Moore
http://abc.go.com/shows/find-my-family
November 25th, 2009 in
Adoption |
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What happens after reunion? I mean after the honeymoon is over and life goes on…In B.C. the Adoption Reunion Registry has been reuniting families since 1991. In this province alone there have been eighteen years of reunion experience. I was in that first wave of reunions and want to know how it has been for others? I think we have a lot of valuable information that needs to be shared within the adoption community and beyond, for our mutual benefit and for those who come after.
I am researching a book on the topic and the project would really benefit from your collective wisdom. If you could take a few minutes to email me your answers to some or all of these questions or make comments about your situation I would greatly appreciate it. Should you share any identifying information, it will be kept private and confidential.
1. What are the circumstances of your reunion – how long has it been, which family members have you met, who found who…?
2. What does your reunion look like now? Close, distant, nonexistent? What do you wish it was like?
3. What have been the positives/negatives of the experience for you?
4. In retrospect, what, if anything, would you do differently?
5. What advice would you give to those searching or about to have a reunion?
6. What changes would you like to see made to the current adoption system?
Thank you for your contribution, it is much appreciated!
Catherine Moore
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If you are adopted or part of an adopted family then you’ve probably heard a question like this before: “So, what’s the big deal about being adopted?” or perhaps one like this: “Why aren’t adopted people satisfied with what they have, they should be grateful?” I’ve heard such questions or some variation thereof so many times that I have to wonder what compels people to ask such questions – which are surprisingly personal – yet which express surprisingly common views. I conclude that these kinds of questions are born of a misunderstanding about the nature of adoption, what I call ‘Adoption Mythology’. MORE..
June 10th, 2009 in
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Title: Monthly Meeting
Start Time: 7:00
Date: 2009-05-28
End Time: 9:00
May 26th, 2009 in
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This is an account of the weekend workshop facilitated by Joe Soll on Vancouver, B.C. in October 2008.
Joe Soll believes that adoption is a trauma for both birth mothers and adoptees. Considerable neonatal research and anecdotal evidence support this conclusion. He postulates that it is an event that, for all intents and purposes, is as traumatic and irrevocable a loss as death. It differs from a real death only in the reaction that others have towards it. This denial of loss and subsequent derailment of the grieving process creates havoc in the psyche of those who have such an experience. MORE..
March 20th, 2009 in
Reunions |
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